“A true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.”Elizabeth Gilbert
Reading the quote
When I saw soul mate as part of the above quote, my immediate reaction was to think of someone I love and want to be with for the rest of my life.
As I read on I began to change my way of thinking and the quote made me realise what a soul mate really is for me.
There’s a line from a song I love that fits what I want to say very well, so if you want the TLDR then this quote is it, otherwise read on.
“But there are some days no matter how much I’ve learned
That the road gets tough
And I don’t feel good enough
But if you’re giving me some of that loving
Could you pass some over
Let me cry on your shoulder and tell me baby
I could be good enough“
– Walter N Afanasieff/ Darren Stanley Hayes
A soul mate to me
I’m not a very social person, and there are many times where I hold back keeoing myself withing myself. Some of this may be down the fact I have something called Dyspraxia and some of it may just be down to things aside from that.
Of course a soul mate will be someone I fall in love with, someone I want to be with for the rest of my life and all that goes with that, but they are much more than that.
A sould mate is someone who gets to see the real you, the person inside that maybe doesn’t always shown themseleves 100% when around others in social situations or in private.
They will understand and learn who you are, make you comfortable with them and over time allow to come out of your shell. You may start to be comfortable in expressing yourself with affection or even in itimiate sessions where it’s just the two of you.
They may also allow you to express yourself arround others.
You may share a mutal love of something with your soul mate and can share that with friends, family or others you know without fear or anxiety.
There may be something you love to do that is naturally OK not to share with everyone, but they can understand and appreciate it while allowing you to intimiately share it with them in a comfortable and private enviroment.You also may be able to engage in said love around them while they do their own thing but still acknowledge what your doing and being happy.
A soul mate is not only someone you love but someone who encourages you to be yourself. They allow you to come out your shell when it’s the two of you or even when you’re in a group/social scenario.
They appreciate what makes you happy, understand the things you might not have shared with anyone and allows you to share that with them while making you more comfrtoable with who you really are.
In the end a soul mate is someone who wants you to be free and do what you want to do whilst being there every step of the way.