[Quote Quest] Change doesn’t mean changing yourself.

“Change your conception of yourself and you will automatically change the world in which you live. Do not try to change people; they are only messengers telling you who you are. Revalue yourself and they will confirm the change.”

Neville Goddard

When I initially looked at the above quote my mind drew a blank and I couldn’t think of anything of note to post, and so I was not going to post anything.
As I started to look at it more though I started to get some ideas in my head, and these idea began to form something I felt like I could work on.

Also this happens to be my first real post on the blog, so a huge thanks to all who read it xx

“Change your conception of yourself and you will automatically change the world in which you live”

During my teenage years, when I started to become ME, I hated the idea of change. I always thought of change as taking who I was and becoming someone I’m not whether that be everything about me or just certain things.

By changing I would be forgetting my past no matter how good or bad it was, and that it had no baring on the world I lived in.

As I got older I began to realise the importance of change, but without necessarily changing who you are/were but being able to grow and adapt as you get older.
You can always stay the same person you were, but learn from it rather than erasing parts of it.

As quote says “change the world in which you live” which for me has been more about mentally changing things that has affect in the real world. For those that don’t know, I consider myself currently as bi-sexual, and it took many years for me to fully understand and accept this in my mind, and make changes to how I dealt with this by incorporating it into my life. It hasn’t helped that I was/am someone who hasn’t always had a lot of self-confidence.

Being able to change and understand who I am better, and be more comfortable with that part of my world/life. I may not be fully out there as bi to everyone, but it’s making things a little easier to know who I am on a basic level, and be able to learn more about me in the world I live, the world in this instance being my own personal life and all around.

I’m not changing who I am at heart, and I’m just realising as I write this, that maybe I’m not actually changing at all, but more adding to who I already am.

“Do not try to change people; they are only messengers telling you who you are. Revalue yourself and they will confirm the change.”

As I’ve grown to accept certain changes in life I realise that changing others isn’t ideal. Everyone has their own identity, and things that make them the person they are, so rather than trying to change people the best things is to project yourself onto others and teach.

They say “Actions speak louder than words” and at the end of the day, the best outcome is if people understand better because of my actions and what I’ve done rather than because I’ve tried to change them.

If I know myself, know my value in life and can put that into practice then hopefully I can teach people through what I do in life, and as above have people understand and accept any changes.

I’ve still to come out as bi to lots of people, especially work folk where IDK how they see me, but I know they would easily be able to confirm the change, that’s of course if they don’t know I’m bi already without me fullt saying it to anyone.

Summing up.

I can happily accept change in my life, and sometimes it’s necessary to change the world in which I live without changing who I was before and keeping that a part of me while also learning from it.

I can’t and won’t change people, but as long I am being myself then maybe they will adapt and change of their own accord bases on that, and where possible accept any change.